Maybe you start the day with such wonderful plans. Then suddenly your child has an outburst and you have no idea why. And all you did was say it's time to stop playing and have breakfast!
Now everyone's in a bad mood. It spills over to the rest of your day. You keep wondering what you did wrong.
Some people have given you not-so-subtle "tsk tsk" comments. Not to mention the 23 different people who doled out random - and often conflicting - advice. ("Spank already!" "Show who's boss!" "Just give in - you should never say no!")
You've lost your patience. Then you cried afterwards, worried that you screwed up their future when you shouted.
Yes, you feel frustrated towards your child. But mostly, at yourself. "Why does this have to be so hard? Why can't I hack this?"
You're strong, intelligent, and successful. But why do you feel so helpless when faced with a screaming toddler?
As a mom, parent coach, and developmental and behavioral pediatrician, I feel you. Know this - your child's tantrum does NOT make you a bad parent. And I'm here to reassure you that…
Toddler tantrums don't have to be endless power struggles.
But it's not about trying harder and always trying to do more.
Your struggles are NOT because you "don't have what it takes", or you're just "not patient enough". Success in handling tantrums has NOTHING to do with personal traits.
Rather, it's about having the right strategies AND the confidence to implement them.
This makes all the difference between tantrums losing steam, or getting worse and more frequent.